Archive | May 2014

Happy Pre-80th Birthday, Mom

 

By RuthAnn Hogue/Whiptail Publishing

Cheesecake Factory lunch with mom

Naomi Hesterman enjoys cheesecake on her 78th birthday.

I want to go see my mom today as an early 80th birthday visit. I’m freaking out a bit because I have no idea what might be in store when I get there. My mother’s oldest son has complete guardianship over her now and he has used that to control who can see her or take her places. I wanted to take her to Cheesecake Factory.

Now all I can do is show up and hope the home hasn’t been told not to allow me in the front door. It was a shock that I could not take her out of the facility. I just am not up for anymore of his cheap shots at my mother’s expense. I am weary of the hate for me that seems to have no bounds.

I need to suck it up and do what I can to make this a great day for my mom. I know I won’t be allowed near her on her actual birthday as her guardian is flying into Arizona today. Apparently, he has taken over birthday plans and has invited people she once worshiped with in lieu of those of us who live here being able to treat her to a proper 80th birthday celebration.

Special thanks to my daughter, Ashley Payne, who has agreed to accompany me to the group home today in hopes of making sure they do not turn me away, and so she can also celebrate with my mom. She will be bringing her two children, Rockwell and Audrey, so we will at least have a little party of sorts.

In the end, this is about my mom. Not me. May this be a great day today and hopefully tomorrow will be enjoyable as well.

Happy 80th birthday, Mom. I love you.

RuthAnn Hogue is the owner and founder of Whiptail Publishing’s WebTechGirl.com and BookTrailerCentral.co. She is an award-winning author and journalist with an Internet Marketing Master of Science and a B.A. in Journalism/Political Science.